• Health 2947

    Rent 2700

    Culture 2505

    Transport 2448

    Restaurant 1946

    Food 1794

    Preschool 1790

    Household 1634

    Alcohol 931

    Utilities and Phone 584

    Housecleaner 500

    Apparel 485

    Beauty 480

    Other 458

    Pets 188

    Social Life 182

    Education 40

    Total 21,617

    3602/month

    So looking at the last 6 months, a couple of things stand out. First, our average costs were higher than expected. I was expecting to be around $2,500–$3,000 and we ended up at $3,602.

    One area that was higher than expected is health and medical. The gym cost was in there for three months for both of us, and medications — around $600 each for 6 months — were more expensive than we anticipated. We buy medications 3–6 months at a time, which means one big bill that wasn’t reflected in the other budgets I posted. Insurance was also a constant at around $100/month. We didn’t have any major hospital stays or surgeries. We may look into the public healthcare system, which should be a lot cheaper for medications but probably less English-friendly.

    There were also some flights in the culture and transport sections that added some cost. Lauren visited friends in Europe, and we have a family trip to the States in December that we prepaid.

    Restaurants were probably a little more than usual because we had our water heater repaired in June, which left us without gas for our stove for just over a week, meaning we were eating out a lot.

    Food at $1,794 is lower than I might have expected given how much fresh fruit, vegetables, and meat we eat.

    Though we are spending a little more than expected, I plugged the new numbers into ProjectionLab and we still have an excellent chance of success on our Monte Carlo. It didn’t even move the needle. No reason to worry.

  • I want to mentally withstand the urge to take my money out if the market drops 30%. I’m 100% stocks, but that means I’m entirely in index funds because I trust the future of the world — or things are so bad that I don’t care.

    It is easy to invest in single stocks or tech when everyone is making money. The real challenge is staying invested in Bitcoin or something similarly speculative when it’s down 60% and looks to be going to zero. Imagine you’re in a speculative investment and it drops 60% over a year. That would be terrible. You have anchored on an amount twice as high, and there is no end in sight. There is no promise it will return to where it was. Index funds have always regained what they lost and reached new heights.

    Index funds will not 100x in a couple of weeks, but they will slowly grow your money by roughly 10% a year until you have enough that that 10% is considerable and replaces your income.

    Also, because index funds hold thousands of companies, your portfolio is dependent not on a single sector or company, but on the United States or the world. If the world economy fails, then I have bigger problems than my portfolio.

  • Cut early in your life and invest to build your nest egg.

    When you retire with, say, $750k invested, in median market years you’ll earn around 10%, or $75k, from your investments. If your base needs cost $30k, you have plenty of room. In good years, spend more — $40k or so — and set a milestone, perhaps $1 million, where you give yourself permission to spend abundantly. Don’t push frugality further down the road than necessary.

    The habits that made you wealthy need to be largely set aside once you arrive. New rules apply. You have to relearn how to spend on the small things that deliver outsized value — housecleaners, gardeners, eating out. These add enormously to daily life for a relatively modest cost.

    That said, avoid locking in permanently higher expenses through debt payments on cars or a more expensive house. When the market pulls back sharply — and it will — you may need to return to your base spending until your portfolio recovers to all-time highs. Once it does, you can spend freely again.

    You can’t take it with you, and to paraphrase Ramit Sethi, the real tragedy is living a smaller life than you have to. But the sequence matters: build the nest egg first. Without it, you’re simply trading your time for an inflated lifestyle — a poor trade. It calls to mind The Richest Man in Babylon, where the narrator describes a purse that never empties because his money makes money. You need that money machine in place first. Only then does the purse overflow on its own.

    Leather pouch filled with gold coins overflowing onto wooden table
    A rustic leather pouch spilling gold coins onto a wooden table in a cozy room

    So what have you actually purchased? Freedom and autonomy. The freedom to walk away from a bad boss, a toxic workplace, or a draining staff member — for a month, a year, or forever. The freedom to pursue work that pays less but means more, or simply to work fewer hours. That is what the money machine quietly buys you.

    But you have to build it first.

  • Part of the reason we chose Ecuador as our home is the language. Spanish is a Romance language, and English has some Latin roots, so many words between the two are similar. This was a welcome change from my time in Korea, where almost no words overlapped with English.

    I had also taken some Spanish classes in high school and college. However, that was decades ago, and I have never been the strongest language learner.

    Though I was initially worried about the language barrier, my experiences in Korea taught me how little of a language you actually need to handle basic tasks. There are also excellent translator apps available now.

    One thing to know about Ecuador is that very few people speak much English, so knowing some Spanish genuinely helps. Some older expats have lived here happily without learning much, and that is certainly possible, but learning the language opens up the culture and the inner lives of the people around you.

    My wife speaks Spanish better than I do, though we came to it with a similar background. We also take regular lessons with a teacher who comes to our house. By the end of each session, my brain hurts from all the mental effort.

    Our three-year-old daughter has been in a Spanish-speaking preschool for about nine months now. She understands a great deal of Spanish but speaks very little. We had her Spanish assessed by a speech therapist, and she is now attending speech therapy a couple of times a week to help her catch up with her peers. Her therapist says she is already bilingual.

    Though challenging, learning Spanish again and conversing with Ecuadorians has been one of the most rewarding parts of living here. I have conversations in Spanish with multiple people every day. Sometimes I won’t catch something and just roll with it. I often sound like a toddler — and ironically, I can understand Ecuadorian toddlers pretty well. My wife likes to say this experience has probably staved off dementia by a decade, given everything we have had to learn.

  • One challenge you will face having children in Ecuador is education. Some families homeschool their children. I know there is a large homeschooling community in Vilcabamba. There is a small homeschool meetup here in Cuenca that we have attended — we went bowling. There is a great Facebook group called Expat Parents in Cuenca that generally has great information. We are friends with Cuencanos who utilize public schools, and we have spoken with an American family who lives outside Loja (Average Family Abroad on YouTube) who love the public school there.

    For us, we feel better paying for private school when the time comes in a couple of years. Right now there are two private schools competing for our consideration. The first is Colegio Alemán, which has a German curriculum approved by the German Ministry of Education. When students get older, there is a German exchange program where Ecuadorian students visit and live with a German family. They also have a symphony program. The campus is modern with many open-concept classrooms, and once children get older, classes are taught almost entirely in German. One big negative of this school is the cost. All things considered, you can expect to pay around $800/month for school and transportation. With this high cost, you can expect other students to come from high-net-worth families — doctors, lawyers, and foreigners. Some people might prefer this environment while others might not.

    The second school we are considering is CEDFI. CEDFI has therapists and a nurse on staff. They have a great campus and classrooms. We have been told that, for a Spanish-language school, they have a more developed English program than most. Though our daughter would only be bilingual, the extra focus on English — rather than learning a third language — might help her settle into the curriculum more comfortably. The school has around 46 teachers and 460 students and is well regarded. Their motto, translated, is: “We educate for life, autonomy, and belonging and commitment to the local and planetary context.” Lastly, tuition and transportation are much cheaper than Colegio Alemán — we have been told it is around $300/month.

    Some comparisons between the two schools:

    Credentials & Diplomas

    • Colegio Alemán: Offers a triple-diploma pathway — the Ecuadorian Bachillerato, the German Fachhochschulreife, and the Multilingual International Baccalaureate (GIB). This is a major differentiator for families with international university ambitions.
    • CEDFI: Ecuadorian Bachillerato only.

    University Access

    • Colegio Alemán: Graduates are prepared to enter top-tier universities in Germany, Ecuador, and around the world.
    • CEDFI: Oriented toward Ecuadorian university entrance.

    Size & Scale

    • Colegio Alemán is noticeably larger (~600 students) with a substantial campus.
    • CEDFI is more intimate (~460 students).
  • One of my hobbies is reading and writing on Reddit. Over the years, I have developed my own pet peeves. One is people writing on FIRE who are retiring at a traditional age or just showing off their high net worth accounts. Maybe it is just hearing the same things over and over that gets tiring. Maybe I just spend too much time online.

    Another pet peeve of mine is people being way too conservative with the investment percentage returns they use, as if it is a virtue to be conservative rather than realistic. Using “high” historical returns has its own perils. How will you be a good steward of your money so it best benefits your family? Bill Perkins has a great book, Die With Zero, about giving early and often that should be widely read. We have our own plans about giving to our daughter when the time comes. Life should be easier for her, and that includes giving money or assisting with major purchases when she is an adult.

    Many people have grandiose plans for their money to last and provide for generations. With money invested at median returns, this is very possible, but generally speaking, money does not last more than two or three generations. First there are the money earners and investors. The next generation generally manages it imperfectly, and the last generation fritters it away seeking luxuries the first generation prided itself on abstaining from.

    What I’ve also noticed online, in my own thinking, and in some of Morgan Housel’s writing is that people often have arguments where the only thing separating them is semantics or a slightly different life experience. Give two diametrically opposed individuals more time to flesh out their histories, and they will come to an understanding and probably an agreement. Surely the current divisiveness of the political climate has made people quicker to anger as well. Politics has become personal for many people when it should involve boring discussions about tax policy.

  • March Budget: $2440.40

    Rent $450

    Health: 397.78

    Preschool: $265

    Food: $254.88

    Household: $231.90

    Beauty: 200.34

    Restaurant: 149.50

    Alcohol 90

    Pets: 87.50 (We got a dog!)

    Apparel: 70

    Other: 68

    Utilities and Phone 66

    Culture: $48 (Spanish lessons)

    Transport: 41.50

  • Pensive elderly man sitting on a beach chair overlooking the ocean under a cloudy sky.

    This is a question I hear all too often. Someone retires—frequently earlier than expected—only to find themselves bored and restless.

    Perhaps they miss the status and power of their previous career, or maybe their budget is a bit tighter than anticipated. There is also a notably high rate of medical issues following retirement. In my view, this isn’t necessarily because retirement itself is a shock to the system; rather, many people wait too long to step away and are eventually forced into retirement by declining health.

    During my career as a librarian, I had to learn the complexities of management. I never worked in a library that didn’t have significant personnel issues, often involving employees with decades of history. In a government setting, unions and regulations can make meaningful personnel changes difficult. Managing was often stressful because I was responsible for ensuring a smooth, fair workplace, even when that felt impossible.

    I’ve found that many people need a transition period between full-time work and retirement. Developing a new routine takes time. It also helps to have a spouse or a solid circle of friends; without those social pillars, retirement can feel incredibly isolating.

    We have a friend who retired at a traditional age. He’s a bit edgy, and one of his favorite questions to ask is, “What do you do all day?” Initially, I thought this was a jab at my early retirement, until I heard him ask the same thing of someone much older. I usually just list my errands. I am perfectly happy with day-to-day tasks, but I suspect he is looking for something more.

    Some people are simply better at finding comfort in an empty room.

    What type of person are you? Will you miss work or bask in the mundane?

  • Illustration of a 529 College Savings Plan featuring a growing tree, books, and piggy bank.
    Discover how 529 plans use smart investments to help families save for future education costs.

    We funded our 529 early—even before our daughter was born. My father-in-law vowed to contribute half of her college costs through his own 529, which left us with about $10,000 to contribute. Our portion should grow to around $55,000 by the time she starts college.

    We were living in Oklahoma at the time, which had an expensive 529 plan, so we forwent the state benefits and used Fidelity to open an account through their UNIQUE plan. Currently, the money is fully invested in their total US market index fund.

    One significant benefit, beyond tax-free growth for education, is a recent change under the SECURE 2.0 Act. This law now allows for a portion of unused 529 funds to be rolled over into a Roth IRA for the beneficiary, subject to a $35,000 lifetime limit and specific eligibility rules. This helps alleviate the fears of parents who worry about overfunding a 529. Additionally, if our daughter does not use the full amount, we can change the beneficiary to another member of the family—such as siblings, cousins, or even ourselves—without incurring tax penalties.

    This multi-layered flexibility transforms the 529 from a restrictive “use-it-or-lose-it” education fund into a powerful, long-term generational wealth tool, allowing us to invest aggressively without the fear of being penalized for our daughter’s success or alternative life choices.

  • I often discuss the benefits of moving to Cuenca—of which there are many—but it’s not for everyone. Here are a few reasons why you might think twice about making the move.

    The first is a reluctance to learn Spanish. Unlike some expat hubs in Southeast Asia, Cuencanos generally expect you to speak the local language. I enjoy learning Spanish because it shares many roots with English (though English is Germanic, its heavy Latin influence makes Spanish feel familiar), whereas the languages I encountered in Asia felt much more foreign. That said, I have met a few Americans who have lived here for years with very limited Spanish and still love it.

    Another factor is the high cost of imported goods, particularly cars and electronics. If you need a brand-new car—or even a reliable used one—you will likely spend much more here than in the U.S. due to high tariffs. Furthermore, driving in Ecuador is an “experience” in itself; I personally prefer the affordable taxis over braving the roads myself.

    Electronics are also pricey. If you’re the type of person who needs the latest iPhone every year, be prepared to pay a significant premium.

    It’s also important to remember that Ecuador is a developing country. While the country is stunningly beautiful, poverty is visible. At the market I frequent, there is a man in very worn clothing; I often see locals invite him to their tables for a meal, which reflects the community’s kindness but also highlights the economic reality.

    Another group who might have a hard time in any foreign country is single people. With the language and culture barriers, foreign countries can be socially isolating. Ecuador is a strongly familial society, so if you are arriving alone, it may be difficult to make friends. Offsetting this are the weekly gringo meetups and the warmth of the Cuencanos. However, I will say the biggest smiles and warmest comments I get are from my “tienda lady” when I talk about my family, especially my daughter, or when her daughter calls me “Vecino,” or neighbor. Although these moments are powerful, they are fleeting and would not suffice for the stronger social support system you might have in your home country.

    Ecuador is a loud country. Churches and individuals celebrate with fireworks regularly. Many people bring their dogs here, but the animals often struggle to adapt and bark constantly. Most residents live in close proximity to their neighbors, and on weekends and holidays, you can often hear music playing. Additionally, motorbikes are quite loud on the streets. Although we chose to live in a quieter part of the city, Ecuador remains a very noisy place. Keep this in mind if you or any pets you are bringing are sensitive to sound.

    Finally, if your goal is to explore every corner of the country, Ecuador might not be for you right now. While Cuenca remains extremely safe, other areas—particularly along the coast—are currently facing severe issues with drug trafficking. President Noboa is taking a tough stance, but for the time being, spending considerable time in certain coastal regions can be risky.